Lighten the Load
You are probably holding on to too much! Think about that statement for a moment. Consider what you are holding on to. How much baggage are you lugging around with you?
Baggage comes in many forms. Sometimes it looks like the obvious. Too much clothing in the cupboard that you never wear. Maybe it is your garage that is full of clutter? Or that spare room at the end of the passage.
Your baggage might be a charge you are holding against someone you judged to have wronged you. Are they a family member? Perhaps an old friend?
Maybe your baggage doesn’t involve anyone else. Your baggage may not even exist in the physical realm. It might just be the judgments that you have about yourself.
Recently I have had the opportunity to lighten my load in several ways.
I was mostly unconscious about all the baggage I was “lugging” around with me. That is the thing about baggage; unless its form is a heavy pack on your back, you are mostly unaware of the weight of the load until you take the time to examine it.
I am moving to a new home. My wife and I are downsizing. My daughter is away at varsity, and we are what many would call “empty nesters”. We are choosing to divest from property. We are going to rent for a while. To fit into our new home, we have had to downsize. I am choosing to look at it as a form of loadshedding.
We have sold and given away so much “baggage” — books, clothes, furniture, appliances, tools, and so much more. A garage full of clutter has been loadshedded. It is a type of loadshedding that is liberating and according to our schedule. Our garage was a black hole where stuff went to get lost or covered in dust.
For the last decade, I have been working on letting go of invisible baggage in my head. I work on offloading that baggage weekly with a group of men who support me on my journey through life. Only through dealing with my imaginary baggage have I embraced the loadshedding of my physical baggage.
I am certain that my physical baggage is just a manifestation of my imaginary baggage.
Letting go of stuff is hard! It is tough when, for a long time, you have told yourself that you can’t do without it. The more you think you can’t do without something, the more power you give to that thing to define who you are.
My loadshedding experience has given rise to an important question about the baggage in other areas of my life. Where in my life am I giving away my power to something or someone else because I choose not to deal with baggage?